By Sue Schleifer, M.A., PCC
Benjamin Zander is a conductor, teacher, speaker and writer. In his TED.com talk entitled, The transformative power of classical music, I found him funny, engaging, and inspirational. He began the presentation by playing a piece of music by Chopin. He demonstrates on the piano that when he stops thinking about every note and instead considers the “long line,” suddenly the music takes off. He describes this as being about vision.
With my coaching clients we also explore vision.
- What is my purpose in life and how do I know?
- What really matter to me?
- Is the way that I focus my energy aligned with my purpose and values?
- In coaching, as in playing music, we put body, spirit, heart, and mind all together to pursue the “long line” in their life.
Zander describes that as a conductor, he realized that his “job was to awaken the possibility in other people.” I love that phrase, as that is how I see my job. I awaken possibilities in my clients. Recently, Jeff has started practicing his music every day. He is excited to be doing his “real work” as he put it. Another client shared with me how she met with her staff to let them know her desire to be more strategic and less tactical. She told them that she would like them to be more involved in setting goals and being responsible for the outcomes. Her staff was excited about this new plan. And a third client said that she has started to take breaks during the day and that has given her more energy and enthusiasm for her work. Her fear that she would get less done has proven to be false and she actually is more productive.
When my clients share these successes, I see their “shining eyes.” Zander asks the question, “Who am I being that my child’s eyes are not shining?” We can substitute client, employee, or spouse for the word child. Who am I being? What am I saying? Am I creating joy and peace or am I sending a message that puts people down or judges them? As Zander illustrates, “It really makes a difference what we say.”
I am trying to be mindful of what I say. It makes a difference what I say to others and it also makes a difference what I say to myself. So, I am paying attention to my thoughts and my speech, breathing, and trying to awaken possibilities for others and myself.
Questions for Reflection
- What is my purpose in life? What is my long line?
- Who am I being that “my child’s” eyes are not shining?
- When do I awaken possibility in myself and others?